Cunnilingus
is the fine art of making love to a vagina/vulva with your
mouth and tongue. It is a delicate skill, requiring patience,
practice, and dedication to get it right, but any woman
you learn to do it right for, will appreciate you all the
more for it. Every one is different, requiring a different
touch to make its owner happy. But few tools can equal the
tongue for the amount of pleasure it can deliver to a happy
vagina. The first thing is to get aquainted with the vagina.
Know it and enjoy it from top to bottom!
This isn't an attack. Don't go after the clitoris like a
starving attack dog. Quite often at first, the clitoris
is far too sensitive for direct stimulation. Lick around
it, stimulating the hood, teasing her inner labia, tasting
her. Take your time and listen to her. Some women make noise,
and some do not. It will be a while before you learn exactly
what your lover prefers as far as oral sex is concerned.
Some women may like additional stimulation - a finger or
two into the vagina, or perhaps even the anus. She may want
your hands to reach up and play with her breasts, or she
may want your fingers to hold her labia apart so that your
tongue can get at her vulva more directly.
If the taste or smell bothers you or is a concern, ask her
to wash first, have a sensual bath together or simply wash
up. Most people who enjoy cunnilingus agree that a clean
vagina is a good, if acquired, taste. As a woman nears her
climax, she may want more direct stimulation. In general,
fast, rhythmic stimulation is most effective at causing
climax- but there shouldn't be a rush to get there. Take
your time and learn to appreciate what you can do for her.
Some women are particularly turned off at the suggestion
of cunnulingus during menstruation. If it is a concern to
you, then wait. A tampon may well hold the blood back. If
your partner is healthy, however, there is no particular
danger in menstrual blood, and some women find that orgasms
during their periods allievate cramps.
Be a tease
Start
indirectly. Kiss and lick your way to warming her
up. Not only will it get her started but will have
her anticipating your next moves with intense longing!
Lick
and nibble her inner thighs, her belly and her outer labia.
Getting
aquainted and savoring the moment
Any licking and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance,
clitoris, or anal area is going to feel just great. Start
your tonguing by lapping her vulva from vaginal entrance
up to her clitoris, while keeping your tongue and jaw relaxed.
Run your tongue between the inner and outer labia on one
side, while keeping the two sides together between your
lips. Do this to one side at a time. Take each labia in
your mouth and gently suck.
Some
women love to rub their entire face over their partners
vulva
Tongue sex
Make love to her clit with your tongue - in and out, around
and around, try with your tongue hard, then soft and change
the tempo often. This feels nice. Spread her outer lips
with your hand. With your tongue pointed and stiff, gently
flick the end of your tongue here and there. Roam around,
but keep coming back to her clitoris. Be careful to not
apply too much pressure on the clitoris in the beginning,
wait for her signal - moaning and bucking her hips. This
drives some women wild, and others can't take it.
Intense techniques
When she’s really hot and her clit is throbbing try these
incredible intense techniques. Watch her signals closely
as these techniques may be too much, even when she’s nearing
orgasm. Cirlce her clit with the tip of your your tongue,
experimenting with different pressures and speeds.
With her clitoris still exposed, give it a quick little
suck by pulling it into your mouth briefly and letting it
go. This will drive her insane with ecstasy! Take her exposed
clitoris into your mouth and gently suck on it, at the same
time flick your tongue over and around her clit. This can
be done very lightly or very aggressively, and combined
with fingering, will usually rapidly produce an intense
orgasm. Try rolling your tongue into a tube by bringing
the sides of your tongue up and together. If you can't do
this with your tongue, you can't learn it, it's a genetic
trait. Roll your tongue into a tube around the shaft of
her clitoris, sliding it up and down, making a tiny vulva
of your own for her clitoris to fuck.
Hum....
humming sounds produce a fine low vibration. Not only
will your moaning and humming produce a fun vibration for
her, but hearing your ecstacy will turn her on immensly.
Flick
her clit with you tongue, flatten your tongue and run it
gently but consistantly over her clit to see how she responds.
Penetration
Penetrate
her vagina with your tongue, lick the area right below her
uretha and yes, just inside her vagina.
You
can match the rythyms of your tongue on her vagina while
penetrating her with your fingers or a vibrator. Many,
many women love this and find that this quickly leads them
to orgasm.
If
she likes her G-Spot stimulated, stroke her G-Spot with
your finger in a "come here" gesture, while stroking
her with your tongue.
Oral
sex positions
For a very comfortable session, have her lie on her back
with legs spread and knees bent slightly. Lie on your stomach
between her legs putting your right arm under her left leg
and your left arm under her right leg. Your head is comfortably
in place near the center of your attention. Your arms wrap
around her legs leaving your hands free. Not as comfy but
a bit wilder is this one. Lie on your back and prop a couple
of pillows under your head. She kneels with her vulva facing
you with one knee on each side of your head, above your
shoulders. The sexy part of this position is that your partner
can look down at you and watch you eating her out. Comfort
is reduced for the one eating here, so you may want to start
in this position and finish in the above position. Have
her lie down with her legs dangling off the bed and resting
flat on the floor, most beds are too high. She must sit
just at the edge of the bed, lie back, and give you plenty
of access while you kneel/sit in front of her genitals.
These are by no means the only positions, so experiment
and have fun.
Relax
and have fun
It
takes time to get to know your partners likes and dislikes.
You are not in a race, you are not on the clock. Back
off, tease and go forward. If somnething isn't working
listen to her. When she likes what is happening she
will let your know, either verbally or by her physical responses.
For goodness sake, if she likes what is happening
DO NOT CHANGE A THING until she reaches orgasm or it is
not working. If she is enjoying the pressure and the
pace, keep it up, do not slow down or move on to another
area.
Every
woman is different, Some like it hard and some like it soft.
Communication is key.
Be
different every time
To
be a real master at cunnilingus, and making love to a woman
for that matter, do not be predictable! Do not do
the same thing over and over.... While knowing what gets
your partner off and how to take her there is key, forplay
can very and bringing her to that point can be a lot of
fun.
Maybe
nibble this time, or suck more that time... or perhaps lick
your way teasing from her mouth, to her breasts while lightly
stroking her clit to let her know that is where you will
end up.
Stir
things up and make it an adventure!
