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all boils down to... what do you like?!
Whether you are a fan of sex toys or not chances are
that you will have some sort of encounter with these
prosthetic devices. 74% of lesbians polled, use them
on some sort of regular basis. While the large majority
uses them as an enhancement to their sex lives with
their partners, some use them strictly for solo action.
There
are so many sex toys on the market. With so many choices,
you may find yourself with a great deal of questions.
What are the differences between a dildo, a vibrator
or a G-Spot vibe? What fits best in a harness? They
come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Made from different
materials, some are durable and others are softer. They
have a variety of features and styles. Which one is
best for you? Better yet, which one is best for your
partner?
It all boils down to, what you like. Do you enjoy clitoral
stimulation, penetration or perhaps both? How do you
get off? What are your fantasies? Do you long for the
connection that you feel with your partner while being
penetrated at the same time?
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Let's start with vibrators
Vibrators are self-explanatory. They vibrate. The trick
is to find the right one.
The
Mini's:
Some
of them come in the popular "Pocket Rocket" size.
What is great about them is that they are small, easy
to put away and easy to stash in your purse, overnight
bag or even yep, your pocket. They are 4" long and ½"
wide. Because of its size and the fact that they use
batteries, their uses are for clitoral stimulation.
They
produce an intense ride, which can be a benefit, yet
at the same time be a downfall and they usually come
in one speed- FAST
Deirdre,
33, a technician from Arkansas says, "It rattles my
clit so much, that I find it takes longer to orgasm
and makes me insensitive."
There
are other similar vibrators in the Mini category… some
are called Vibrating Eggs, Bullets and Bunny Hop
Vibes. They all produce about the same results.
Smoothies:
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These
are rocket shaped glide rides. While Smoothies
have the elongated narrow shape similar to a penis,
they are smooth and pointed at the tip. So if you
are one that doesn't wish to have a penis in the
room, whether it's made of plastics and rubber,
yet enjoy penetration, these may be ideal for you. |
Usually you can adjust the vibrating speed on these
slick toys. They come in a variety of sizes. They are
made of plastic, often light up and come in all colors,
including leopard skin and camouflage. They are easy
to clean because they are not porous.
The
down side to smoothies is that they are hard, cold,
and not exactly perfect for external stimulation.
Most
Classic vibrators are shaped like a penis. Like all
vibrators, they are battery operated. They can come
in 4" to 8" long with width of 1-¼" to 2". Their speed,
like a smoothie is adjustable. The Classics present
many great qualities. They are made of materials from
cyber skin (which look and feel like skin) to rubber
so they are softer to the touch than Smoothies are.
Designed for both external and internal stimulation
they give you more variety. Some reviewers especially
like them because they usually look like a penis. Even
though they do come in pinks, purples and blues, they
often have the ribs, veins and head of a real penis.
In
addition, more good news on the Classics, if
they come with a flared bottom you can fit them in most
harnesses! Now that's nice!
With
the joys of a softer, more porous material however,
there is a downfall that Classics and Dual Actions require…more
care and clean up. Their rigidity does not last near
as long as a Smoothie does.
Dual
Action vibrators:
Dual
Action vibes are what many consider the most popular
vibrator available! Why? Stimulation in two places,
internal and external, makes these vibes delightful.
There are a few models from which to choose. Dual action
vibrators are similar to the Classics with one wonderful
add on… a second vibrator protruding from the base,
usually shaped like a bunny, dolphin, or a bear to provide
clitoral attention so that not only are you getting
rocked inside, but outside as well!
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The
Rabbit Pearl takes first place The
Rabbit Pearl actually has vibrating
pearls in the mid section of the shaft, which
make for a unique sensation.
These
wonderful toys are easily a top choice in reviewer
ratings!
Like
Classics, washing and cleaning properly is a must. |
Maggie,
24, Nursing Assistant in Seattle, says, "When my friend
bought me a Rabbit for my birthday, I thought it looked
a little strange, but thought I would give it a try,
once I used it, I was in heaven. I no longer have to
use both hands!"
Again,
with the joys of being made of softer, more porous materials
however, there is a downfall that Classics and Dual
Actions require more care and clean up. Their rigidity
does not last near as long as a Smoothie does.
G-Spot
Vibes:
Many
women have amazing orgasms when their G-Spots are directly
stimulated. For some, this direct stimulation can result
in female ejaculation of fluids produced by the glands
surrounding the urethra. The G-Spot is the spongy tissue
located on the front wall of the vagina behind the urethra,
which is why, the G-Spot vibe work magic for many women.
They are shaped like an "L' so that they provide that
direct stimulation to the G-Spot, when pointed upwards
toward the urethra. They come in both the harder plastic
as well as the softer jelly materials. If you choose
one with a ridge at the base, it will give extra clitoral
stimulation as well.
The
most common complaint with the G-Spot Vibe is that they
are not easy to insert and once inserted are not as
easy to maneuver.
Now
let's talk about Dildo's
Most
Dildos shaped like a penis are made of the softer materials
such as acrylics, jelly rubber and cyber skin. They
became popular in the lesbian community because it fits
nicely with a harness. Like vibrators, they come in
varieties of colors, lengths and widths so you can choose
what is perfect for you or your partner, but keep in
mind… these are not vibrators. If you do not enjoy the
stimulation from vibrations and prefer a more natural
ride, dildos are what you are looking for. Although
a few come in a smooth design and or have a corkscrew
affect, so if penises are not what you are looking for
there are other choices. Some have flat bases to fit
easily in the ring of your harness and some have bases
shaped like testicles, these ones have a harder time
spinning into place. Some are so realistic in the way
they look and feel that upon first glance and first
entry, they seem to be the real deal.
There
are dildos on the market that ejaculate and come complete
with a recipe! It is called, the
ejaculating cock. It is so new it
has not been reviewed yet.
Reviewer
advice is that if you are not sure what size to get,
lean toward the smaller of your choice. You can always
use them, and work your way up to the bigger size, but
to start out too large can be a pain, literally.
Like
vibrators, they require thorough cleaning and if used
vigorously do not have a long rigidity life. Silicon
materials are a better choice. They have some softness
yet are hard enough for the job. They have a longer
rigidity life.
Double
Dildo's? … yummy!
What
a wonderful concept. To hands-free penetrate your lover
while being penetrated yourself. What a ride!
Unfortunately,
there are varieties of double dildos on the market,
but very few actually work, with one exception, the
Nexus. The old style double dongs are
hard to keep in place, are slippery and not easily maneuverable.
Do not waste your money!
Finally,
Vixen Products has actually designed a double dildo
that actually works, the Nexus. It is designed to wear
in a harness. The wearer has a curved end that fits
perfectly inside her while the other end stands upright
for great friction and penetration. It actually stays
in place! The Nexus is a newer version
of the double dildo and it has made an impressive impact
in the lesbian sex toy market. It has quickly jumped
to reviewer favorites!
The
Nexus is made
of silicon so it is easier to wash than a rubber type
dildo. It also has a longer rigidity life.
The Nexus
What
are the best harnesses?
You
would think this one would be easy, but it is not. Pick
the wrong harness and your view of strap-on sex can
go down the drain. So, if you have had a bad experience,
buy another harness and try it.
Some
of the most common complaints I have heard regarding
strap-on sex is that the harness does not stay in place,
becomes lose, and doesn't stay firmly against the wearer.
Vixen products also have good
quality harnesses.
There
are panty styles and boxer styles, the most common strap
styles. There is also a chinstrap harnesses. They come
in small, medium and large…
The
most popular is the Terra Firma. Popular
because it is made of a soft leather material and is
said to be the best at holding your dildo firmly against
your body.
The
draw back is that it cannot be used with the Nexus and
has no opening for dual action. If you are looking for
a dual action harness, make sure there are openings
for double-sided dildos and that the straps make for
a tight fit.
Anal
toys?
OK,
so you like back door action. Some reviewers report
that the anus has an abundance of nerve endings and
sensations that are incredibly arousing.
All
sorts of plugs, probes and screws are used…. Even the
G-Spot vibe is used for anal play, as
they enhance stimulation to the prostate gland. From
the big flirt and little flirt, they normally come in
3" to 6" long but can even come as long as an arm.
By
far, the most popular anal toys are beads and
they come in small, medium and large sizes.
Make
sure that you always have plenty of lube for anal play.
Lube
is a necessity!
Lube
was one of the best sex enhancers ever invented! We
all have had times when we need more lubrication. That's
OK. That's why we have lube. Most lubes are water based.
If you have reoccurring problems with yeast infections,
you may want to go with a glycerin free lube. Go with
a lighter gel if you like your lube less thick.
Final
thoughts:
What
is most important in your search for the best toy is
to be comfortable with yourself, relax and have fun.
That is what it's about. Sex toys may enhance your love
making with your partner but it is you that is
making love to her, the toy is only your instrument.
While
nothing can replace your tongue, fingers and wet kisses,
using toys can add variety and unpredictability to your
sex life. So have fun.
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